How do you respond when you’re drowning in Trigger Ocean? Do you splash about trying to find something to hold on to? Or do you calm your nerves and remember you already know how to swim?
How you navigate determines how you do.
💖Z
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The wound of being disrespected is being triggered AF collectively at the moment. ‘Tis the (retrograde & eclipse) season for lessons to becoming our better selves. Everything is a mirror to show us the way. Do you react? Maybe. But do you flip that view to see yourself better? Absolutely! Monkey (energetically) see, Monkey do. Boundaries are great. But boundaries with yourselves are even better. Unapologetic and unwavering self mastery is key.
💖Z
Throwback to a piece I wrote last year. And damn what a year it’s been for me personally. This Mother’s Day feels extra raw since my mum transitioned earlier this year.
A massive focus for my healing journey in the years leading up to her death was around the Mother Wound.
I’m blessed I was able to work that out before she passed. But so many of us don’t have the same privilege.
This time of year brings up a lot of pain and self judgment about those uncomfortable thoughts and feelings we hide-especially when our mothers have passed. Unaddressed mother wounds bubble worse as society tells us to celebrate the one who gave them to us to begin with.
Earlier this week, the Moon and Black Moon Lilith conjuncted in Cancer, hot off the tails of the intense af New Moon Eclipse. A battle in the stars between the dark feminine and the divine feminine within was waged.
The mother wound symptom of people pleasing hit a breaking point. Seeing all scenarios where the divine feminine was ignored to please others, backfired all over the place. And thus, the feminine within exploded in a Kali-like inferno at both the masculine within and the masculine without. Much like a Taurus.
I’m a Taurus so I know this well. You can push and hurt a Taurus a thousand times. But that thousand and oneth time will have them seeing red and their tempers flare as they charge at anything that disrespects them. We lazy. But we savage lil cows.
The feminine is rising as the wounded feminine is healing. But her voice is quiet, so you have to listen. You have to honour the feminine within and defend the feminine without.
Observing the mother wounds you carry with unconditional compassion for self allows you the space to see the parts of you that perpetuate the harmful patterns we inherited. Yes it’s there. No it’s not ok. Consciously rewire that within. And be gentle with yourselves through it.
We deserve better than living like that. For all the feminines in our lineage.
All is Well
💖Z
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Today is an especially hard day for a lot of people for a variety of reasons. One of which, an often uncouth one to mention today is the wounds we carry from our mothers. What I’ve named Mother’s Wound Day.
Our first feminine-the one that shaped our inner feminine, which we work with for the rest of our incarnation, is our biological mother.
No matter what your relationship with her was or even if you didn’t have one at all, being birthed through her portal will influence us more than we know.
Mother Wounds are one of the biggest things that come through sessions with clients and is something that impacts everyone, even those with the most “Cheesy sitcom wholesome” of relationships.
For many walking this path of self mastery and awakening and doing the deep shadow work, this day can be raw. There may be guilt and shame and anger and resentment and obligation popping up for you.
No matter how much work you’ve done on this within yourself, it’s normal for there to be resistance within you as this day approaches.
I write this to say that I do not have all the answers. But I invite you to have unconditional compassion and nonjudgement for yourself.
Allow whatever feelings come up. And if you feel like you’re being inauthentic in any way with a peer-pressured-social-media-grand-show, then don’t do it. Anytime you’re being disingenuous, you’re losing pieces of yourself, pieces you’ve worked so hard to discover.
Meet yourself where you’re at. And hold that space of unconditionally loving yourself through your own inner feminine in ways your first feminine may or may not have done. Be the mother your little self needed then; now.
So if today is difficult for you, I see you and I send you love. And I wish you a happy Mother Wounds Day.
💖Z
Originally written May 9th, 2021
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